Thursday, June 28, 2012
Dreamscaping 4...Visioning as a guide to action
"Where there is no vision, the people perish:
but he that keepeth the law, happy is he."
--Pr 29:28 (KJV)
The vision alluded to in this verse is God's perspective of what is to come, of what He desires to come to pass--it is His dream for us and for those we impact. As a parent this concept has been foundational to everything I do, but for awhile I lost that vision.
When my first son was born, I had an idea--a vision--of the kind of man I wanted him to grow to be--the kind of man that would make God proud. Everything I did as a parent was framed in light of that vision. Correction was loving and consistent because I wanted him to understand the nature of God's laws and character. Immediate obedience was always the goal because I wanted him to grow to obey God immediately, with loving trust that His rules were for PJ's good.
When Katie was born with Down syndrome, one of the most disorienting issues was that I couldn't envision who Katie would be as an adult, and every attempt on my part just brought up more pain. It was a devastating time. Without that vision, I lost the will to correct her and demand of her behavior and attitudes that would befit a Godly future. I floundered. Many times, she floundered. PJ was in the middle of a neurological crisis I couldn't see at the time but my hesitancy as a parent didn't help.
A few years ago, I was at a conference put on by the local DS support group where one of the speakers gave a passionate talk about the vision she had crafted for her son when he was just two. From there, all of her actions and planning were guided by that vision. Nearly all of those goals have been achieved by her son who is now in his 20's and he is wiser, stronger and more popular than any would have believed possible.
Her talk reminded me of the vision I had lost for my own daughter. I can't say that I have completely regained that vision yet, but yesterday PJ and I worked together to create a daily schedule and a list of goals for him and his sister that will help her move toward them. It's a start.
What is God's vision for those you impact? Have you asked?