This morning one of our pastors, Jimmy Knott, preached on myths of trials. He included one of my favorite pet-peeves. Well meaning people will say silly things like, "God will never give you more than you can handle."
I am here to tell you right now that this old saying is patently untrue. First of all, life happens and we are not always up to it. For a Christian, circumstances must first go through the fingers of our Heavenly Father, but He lets a lot through. My dear friend, Steve Brown, has said in the past, "It may seem cold-hearted, but I believe that every time a pagan gets cancer, a Christian gets cancer so the world can see the difference." Years ago, I made the choice that building the Kingdom of Heaven was worthy of my life and the lives of everyone I know and love. Don't get me wrong, it's hard when your kid has a debilitating disorder or you have to face hardships, but if it brings Glory to God, that's what we're here for. We don't get out of this alive anyway.
God WILL intentionally give His adopted children far more than they can handle. He expects us to do what He does and that is a lot more than we can do. The Truth is that He will not give us more than HE can handle. Part of why we're still here is to learn how to trust Him, rely on Him and work beside Him doing His work. I Peter 1:7 tells is that the testing of our faith is more precious than purified gold and will bring the Father praise and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ. I want Him to be proud of me more than anything. He's not going to be proud of me doing what I can take credit for. He's going to be proud of things He does through me--only what He does lasts anyway.
I can say for sure that the parents I've met with disabled or injured kids are really amazing folks. I can also tell you pretty confidently that they didn't start out that way. I wasn't called to be the mom of a child with Down syndrome or ADHD. I was called to be Katie's mom and PJ's mom. They have those disorders, so we address those issues one day at a time with God's direction, healing and planning. He builds us up to the tasks before us as we rely on Him. As I pray, the Lord sends strength, stamina and solutions. I didn't get those things before I had the need. I got them when I needed them. I can share the solutions He has provided to spread God's Glory and so others will have what they need when they need it. In the end, the best things I've gotten from all of this was the chance to know Him better. That alone has been worth it.