There was a time when I was in High School that I made a fatal error. I was at the height of enjoying my Heavenly Father. Ministry stuff was going great. I was beginning to take college classes. Despite all that was going right, my heart ached and I couldn't place why. I wasn't a loner, but I was lonely. I cried out to God one night that He wasn't enough--I needed people in my life. What my heart was saying was that I needed a man in my life. My dad was busy as a schoolteacher and I just didn't feel treasured by anyone. Every woman needs someone to tell her she is beautiful, but instead of going to my Heavenly Father to meet that need, I assessed Him as inadequate to it. I reasoned if it wasn't good for man to be alone, then how could a "derived creature" like woman be good alone.
What came next was predictable. Like the Israelites who demanded a King, God gave me what I asked for. In His graciousness, He gave me a good man on the whole, but even a good man makes a terrible god. He constantly demanded I prove my love for him and took great pleasure in pushing me farther and farther every time we met. This continued into our marriage and became the nightmare anyone could have predicted. He is still a good man but he is also still a terrible god. He has wounds of his own and my need for a minor deity has often kept me from adequately tending to his wounds or holding him accountable for his own healing.
Over the last year, I have renounced that vow within my own heart. Jesus is indeed more than enough for me and any time I am tempted to think otherwise, I push harder into Him. I continually find He is more than sufficient for my needs. He reminds me that in His eyes, I am beautifully perfect and that He is perfecting all that concerns me. He tells me that He has loved me with an everlasting love and that He has drawn me with unfailing kindness to Himself. He rejoices over me with singing. He has written my name in the palm of His hand.
It's hard to dethrone a god. Subtle fears and devotions must give way. Rather than blindly doing all that he wants, no questions asked, I have to make choices about who I am going to honor. I have to respond as a servant but an equal and a joint-heir to the inheritance of salvation. I have to speak up when I am hurt rather than cow-tow or placate.
Make no mistake. It was my need for something that my husband could never be that placed us in such a horrible position. We've been together for a quarter of a century and we won't get free of this problem overnight but we will get free.
Father, I thank You for being my God. Only You are sufficient to the task. I again renounce any other gods I have placed before You and lay my heart at Your feet. I trust You completely with my life.